What do you know about sense of humor? Did you know that it helps you control human health and emotions? “Sense of humor is a way to produce and experience pleasure by provoking or being provoked to laugh. It is also a trait of appreciating the humorous, you can’t live without humor it is inexplicable” (McMahon). “Most people have it and are able to laugh at jokes or funny situations that people make. This is developed at a very early age, and it is considered vital part of human development” (McMahon). First of all, what is sense of humor? Where does it appear? Sense of humor is a way to produce good emotions like pleasure; these are provoked by crazy or funny acts, jokes, and the ability to be amused. Sense of Humor appears to be very important in human survival. When you laugh you lose tension or relax your mind. This for example can make people in bad situations take good decisions. “Physiological studies say that by having sense of humor you will make you a happier person, and in almost all cases, you will have a healthier life. There are very few people that don’t have sense of humor. For me this is inexplicable and irrational. People lack senses of humor, often have autism”(Nichol). “They have the ability to develop their disabilities or sometimes lack one. This is very weird because sense of humor plays a very vital role in the world”( 10 Different Types Of Humor). There are people that have sense of humor, but do not understand the funny part of a joke for example. If we compare cultures, sense of humor is very different. For example in the Ancient Greece, sense of humor started with Plato, which contributes Socrates by making the Philebus. “They say that ridiculous was ignorance from the weak people. So the weak cant revenge when ridiculous things happened to them. Later Aristotle suggested that humor is not fundamental by being considered weak or strong.” (McMahon). “ In India, sense of humor was defined as one of the nine “nava rasas”. “Nava” was defined as the imitations of the emotions that the actors perform. Each “Rasas” was associated or joined to the “bhavas” or “navas””( Mahadevan).
There are a lot of types of sense of humor. The most important ones are sarcasm, parodic, burlesque, ironic, bonding in the moment and self deprecating. “Sarcasm is a type of sense of humor was your humor is dark and sharp. This is not necessarily ironic”(Nichol). The important part of this is that it is only present when speaking, and it is manifested by vocal infections. “Parodic humor is a sense of humor were the author who made the funny thing or said the funny thing is imitated comically by others” (Nichol). This is obviously to ridicule the author who made the funny thing. “Burlesque sense of humor is where you imitate the author of the funny act or words” (Nichol). This is just like the parodic sense of humor, but in this one you need to exaggerate the funny thing. Ironic sense of humor is where you try to be the opposite of others, by saying other things or make other things. “Bonding in the moment is a very important part of sense of humor. People who have this type of sense of humor, want to say a funny thing when the place has changed from funny to serious”( The 10 Different Types Of Humor). This is a very good type because it is a very likeable humor to express. But the bad thing of this is that you need to be careful, you don’t want to make someone feel bad about the things you said. Self deprecating is when you make something funny and instead of trying to avoid it, or make something so people stop laughing, you start laughing about your joke, or laughing when you are making fun of yourself.
There are a lot of theories of humor. The ones that I will talk about and are the most important for me are the Relief Theory, Superiority Theory, Incongruity Theory and the Ontic-Epistemic Theory of humor. First of all this theories explain about how and why people laugh and how is the moment in a situation and a concept. “The Relief Theory of humor explains that laughter is being maintained in a homeostasis mechanism. This will reduce tension. It facilitates the relief of the tension that are caused by fears or something you are scared of. Laughter, according to this Theory called the Relief Theory is a result from the release of nervous energy” (Monro). The next theory is called the Superiority Theory; “this explains that people laugh about the bad luck of other people. This misfortunes or bad luck will make other people feel better that the others. In other words, feel superior” (Monro). The next theory is called the Incongruity Theory. “This theory says that humor is shown when something is said at an incorrect moment and will make everyone laugh. This theory is not the incongruity, but it is the resolution and the realization” (Monro). “The Ontic-Epistemic Theory of humor was proposed by P. Marteinson. This theory says that laughter is a reaction of a start without an end. This is when the person appears no longer to be real” (Monro). The evidence is clear; not all people have sense of humor. In my opinion, in a human, it’s irrational and inexplicable not having sense of humor, but there are some people that have it. Having sense of humor will help your body having better emotions by all types of sense of humor. A person, who doesn’t have sense of humor, lives a very boring life. In my opinion they live a life without a meaning, but in this I don’t say that if you don’t have sense of humor you will not be a person with success. You can have success, but without sense of humor it will be very difficult to express and communicate with others. Sense of humor is something that you say or act in a way that people looking at you get or sees it fun, and they are provoked to laugh.
Humor: The Spice of Life (Part 1)
By Leslie Rose Seminars
What would we do without humor? How would we enjoy talks with others if we did not use humor to invite a smile or a laugh? And how would we manage the times when we feel sad and alone?
With humor we lighten up each day, and we find common ground with others. We build healthy relationships with others by knowing what to say and to do that helps, and what hinders, a conversation. Humor often takes us to the edge of uncertainty when we exaggerate, or tease others to make our point. When humor is successful, we build trust and cooperation. We discover that we are not alone, we learn to accept our mistakes, and we look for the good in others and in our selves. Most important, we create common ground.
However, when we lose our sense of humor, we often get critical or defensive, and we blame others or ourselves for what was said, and how it was said.
Humor is an essential skill needed to communicate well with others. A few well chosen words get the attention of others and make a serious point without their getting defensive. Whether we prefer to be the centre of attention or shy and quiet, humor can be adjusted to suit our personality.
The challenge for everyone is to become more aware of how to add humor, and when to avoid it. Too much humor, like too much spice often annoys others. Humor that is perceived as insensitive often leads others to shut down, or become argumentative. But when we each maintain our sense of humor, we look for the good in others and in our selves. To ensure that our humor is welcomed by others, we need to combine our humor with speaking clearly and listening effectively.
Have you ever noticed that successful individuals often use self-depreciating humor to humble themselves, without putting themselves down? These individuals understand that every person has strengths and weaknesses and that self-depreciating humor invites others to feel more confident and equal.
Having humor helps us keep our perspective, stay responsive to others, and resolve differences. Do you already have some things that you say to diffuse tension? Words like “At times like this, my uncle used to say…” can help the conversation to become less confrontational.
And what do you say when you are tempted to disagree with someone? If you can’t think of a humorous comment that will be helpful, you can try looking for clarification by mirroring back their words and clarifying their point. Assume that there is always something that you can find to appreciate when you are looking for common ground. Focus on preventing an argument. Remember, humor is often not the best choice to handle conflict,
Opportunities to add a touch of humor happen all of the time. In December when I visited my friend Tim in the hospital, I came wearing antlers from the dollar store. And when I was accepted into the graduate program at University of Waterloo, I wrote my acceptance letter as a poem. In each situation my small change from the everyday stirred others to smile, and expect positive conversations in the future.
Much of our humor comes from reconnecting to our playful inner child. For many of us, it only takes a playful voice tone, wearing a funny hat, or holding a stuffed toy to get started. Take a risk. Add a bit more humor, and do it in the way that is right for you.
Humor: The Spice of Life (Part 2)
When we are happy, we are light-hearted. We are open to others and ready to laugh and play. We laugh when we see things presented in unexpected ways. TV sitcoms and comics give us daily reminders of how to twist what we expect to see or hear to make it funny.
When life seems good, the world seems safe. And at these times we find the confidence and the strength to deal with the challenges of everyday living.
Knowing how to add humor to our conversations and to our activities keeps us happy and confident and connected with others. Conflicts and differences of opinions are prevented or managed. Humorous comments help us see a situation realistically.
Organizing fun activities throughout the year keeps us feeling happy and strong. Having a fundraising event, a surprise birthday, a Halloween costume party or a scavenger hunt helps. The key to a successful event is choosing activities that invite individuals to feel comfortable enough to be spontaneous when they interact with others. They need to be noticed and appreciated for their contribution.
Here are some fun things to say to manage a stressful situation.
__1) You are terrific.
__2) Is it my turn to win?
__3) Is it too late to apologize?
__4) You’re younger, you know best.
__5) My mother wants me to stop now.
Here are some fun things to do:
__1) Dance naked in front of your pets.
__2) Get a tattoo.
__3) Eat dessert first.
__4) Make a home made birthday card.
__5) Pop popcorn with the lid off.
__6) Tell stories about great personal successes or embarrassments
Humor is the spice of life. It brings happiness. It decreases pain. It enhances speaking well and listening well.
Humor is the shortest distance between two people.
Humor: The Spice of Life (Part 3)
Have you ever watched a soap opera on TV? Mainly the characters do selfish and hurtful things, and they suffer. Thousands of people watch these soap operas each day. For some people feeling helpless can seem more appealing than feeling happy
There is a clear alternative. Humor can be added each day to feel happiness, to find common ground with others and find solutions to problems.
Some will smile when they read, “We are all bozos on the bus”.With so many everyday competing demands, it is hard not to feel inadequate some times. We can get stuck in ongoing emotional struggles, even with the ones we love.
Usually when we get very upset we lose our sense of humor. Frequently we are upset about little things, like dirty socks on the floor, the seat left up, and the toilet paper that is rolling over instead of under. Underneath, what is upsetting is feeling helpless and thinking that others don’t care about our needs.
Telling others what we don’t like about them does not help them to change. Criticizing in a critical voice tone often creates resentment, and escalates the problem. One critical moment can undo the goodwill established with many good talks. Improving communication skills will help. Humor makes it easier to communicate well. Little fun moments are like building a relationship one brick at a time.
Here is what businesses have done to improve communication and morale.
- Wheeling around a refreshment cart at 3 p.m. on Fridays.
- Replacing dress down Fridays with dress up Fridays.
- Celebrating birthdays each month with a cake and a get together at lunch.
- Giving each person the name of another employee and secretly leaving poems, small gifts or words of appreciation.
Here is what fun-loving people do away from work:
- Put up streamers even when there is no special occasion.
- Make a family photo collage for the wall.
- Make a hanging mobile and hang in the house.
- Wear funny hats in public.
- Make music out of utensils from the kitchen.
Humorous conversations naturally come when the unexpected replaces your daily routines. Giving each person a chance to shine builds trust and increases creativity. What follows is a warm feeling inside, some smiles or big laughs and the good memories and good feelings last for a long-time.
Leslie Rose has been leading humor seminars for over 25 years. He presents at conferences and in-house on Humor in the Workplace, Managing Stress, Communicating Effectively and Customer Service.
For a fun moment, please visit his web site: www.leslieroseseminars.com, or call 416 423 0400